Friday, April 6, 2012

The Difference Between Marriage and Just Living Together

A few weeks ago, at Paul's sister's vow renewal, his niece asked me, "So does it feel different being married as opposed to just living together?"

I gave her question some thought and came up with this....

Aside from the feeling that being married under the blessing of God gives me - here are the practical differences....

No, it's not much different. I still wake up and go to work as does he. We both still fight over the same old crap. We both still laugh and giggle and wrestle on lazy mornings like we always have. We both still share the chores and we both still dream about our future... but what is different - dramatically different = FINANCES!

That whole - whats mine is yours and whats yours is mine thing was a tough one to work out. I mean, my 401K was always MINE. My savings account was MINE. We still have seperate bank accounts and we still manage our $ somewhat seperately. We do talk about all major investments before we jump in, and to us, a major investment is like $300 and up!

So yeah... that's hard and it's an adjustment. For almost a year we had a joint savings and checking account but the only thing sitting in it was our wedding money. We just started adding to it now... and it feels really good. Becuase each deposit brings us one step closer to our future goals... a house & a family.

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