Wednesday, July 7, 2010

You realize of course...

When Harry Met Sally me very well by one of my favorite movies. While I lived with my Mom in Syria for a summer I had only few things I could escape to at night. Those 25 VHS tapes got watched and re-watched day after day while my sister and I escaped boredom and heat. When Harry Met Sally was one of those tapes that began to wear from over watching. Tonight as I was flipping around, I saw it was on and of course I had to flip to it. It was at the beginning when Harry and Sally are driving to NYC and Harry, after being turned down by Sally, explains why they cannot be friends. The quote is as follows:

Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

This always made me laugh. Could this be true? I doubt it. I have almost all exclusively male friends and Paul has many female friends. I do however think that it is true that many many men and women we meet on a daily basis are fantasized about ... even if only briefly. I'd lie if I said I didn't wonder or feel even a small bit of attraction to the sexy man on the train who gave away his seat, or the waiter who winked my way, even the co-workers who rain compliments down on me. But I'd never, ever take it far enough to feel uncomfortable enough to not be able to maintain a completely platonic friendship with them. I just thought this was interesting... And the most romantic line ever:

Harry Burns: I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

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